Ten Tenacious Tools for Closing a Gap
A gap is a space between where you are now and where you want to be. Mentally a gap can look like it would take an impossible leap to traverse the distance. Emotionally a gap can feel like you are facing a scary dark hole. Gaps can be stressful and energy draining.
Gaps can also be opportunities for challenging your limiting beliefs, stretching your imagination, unleashing your creativity, building new capacities, and creating new possibilities.
Where are you tolerating a “gap” in your life or your work?
Here are Ten Tenacious Tools for closing gap:
1 – Identify the benefit:
What’s in it for me for closing the gap? Visualize it. Feel the feelings you would have when the gap is closed. (Examples: less stress; more freedom, harmony, time, money, intimacy).
2 – Shift your attitude:
Check to see if you are being a victim about the circumstances. If so, shift your attitude to appreciating the opportunity for learning or growth.
3 – Shift your perspective:
Identify a list of options and possibilities and then choose one that gives you the most freedom or joy for moving forward.
4 – Establish a boundary:
Is your gap a result of the words or actions of someone else? If so, what personal boundary is important for you to establish?
5 – Identify your needs:
Does the gap involve a need that is not being met? Identify what need is not being met. Take action to have your need met.
6 – Make a request:
Is your gap a complaint? Take responsibility for what you want and make a request. Elements of an empowering request include: Be specific about what you want, by when, and the benefit. Example: “Will you deliver that completed report to me by 3pm on Friday, so we can avoid paying late charges this month?”
7 – Build support:
Surround yourself with people who are partners and champions for who you are and the changes you want to make. (Hire a coach!)
8 – Design a plan:
Create a plan for closing your gap. Start with a vision and a purpose. Identify what values you’ll be honoring by closing this gap. Identify milestones. Chunk it down to doable steps. Identify actions steps for achieving your goal.
9 – Take action:
Sometimes the first step is the hardest. Take it, and keep going, building momentum.
10 – Evaluate:
Evaluate every step for your learning. Review often. Revise, based on your learning.
ENJOY the process and CELEBRATE your successes every step of the way!!